As you grow up, it’s only natural that you won’t always see eye to eye with your parents or guardians.
If you are under 25, our advice page for young people has lots of ideas to help you improve your relationship with your parents.
If you are over 25, some of the following ideas could help:
Set some ground rules
Try to negotiate rather than argue, and be prepared to compromise. If your family member if particularly adamant about certain points, ask them why, rather than arguing about it, and listen to their reasoning.
Talk it through
If you have a problem with the way your family members are treating you, talk to them about it. They may not even realise they’re upsetting you. If you are angry, wait until you’ve calmed down, then discuss things rationally later on. Put forward your side of the story, then ask them to explain theirs.
Talk to someone else
If you’re having problems communicating with your family member, it may help to talk to someone else such as a sibling, an aunt or uncle or college tutor.
Get help from a mediation service
If you feel you need some ‘hands on’ help sorting things out with your family, you could contact a mediator. They don’t take sides, they don’t decide ‘who is right’ and they don’t tell you what to do. Instead, they help you work things out for yourselves.
What if I’m in danger?
If someone in your home is being violent or abusive towards you, you must get help immediately. If you are in immediate danger, call 999 and ask for the police.
You can also call:
For a list of organisations that offer advice and support to people experiencing domestic abuse, see here.
If you feel you have no choice but to leave your home, try to contact an adviser before you go and arrange some emergency housing in advance.